Saturday, March 31, 2007
Foundations of Modern Survivalism
OAK 2st Degree Study MaterialsIn Print
Anarchist Knight:Apprentice
Magister Templi
Foundations of Modern Survivalism
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Anarchist Knight:Journeyman
Book II
OAK:Tarot of Love and Romance
Why Love Sparks and Why it Sometimes Dies
Alligator Alley:Modern Survivalism
Freemasonry, Rosicrucianism and Survivalism
OAK:Magick, Mystery and Madness
A Book of Shadows
Copyright 2007 by Anarchistbanjo
First Edition
Published by Order of Anarchistic Knights
This book is dedicated to everyone that believes in hard work and self evident truth. Life is not such a mystery as many would like us to believe.
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Table of Contents
PART ONE-COMMENTARY ON LIBER CCXX THE BOOK OF THE LAW
THE PRESENT MOMENT
FREE LIVING
SEXUALITY,SOUL DEVELOPMENT AND THE INTELLIGENCE OF LIFE
THE PATH OF LOVE
WE TEACH EACH OTHER
ALL OF LIFE IS A CELEBRATION
BE A GOD OR GODESS
SHOULD WE BE ASHAMED OF OURSELVES
GENERATION OF SEXUAL ENERGY
THIS IS WAR!
THE WAY OF THE WARRIOR
THIS IS NOT A GAME
PART TWO-MYSTERY SCHOOLS
MODERN SURVIVALISM
EDUCATIONAL FREEDOM
INTERNET-THE FINAL FRONTIER
WE CAN'T CHANGE BY OURSELVES
CONCEPTUAL INITIATION
PART THREE-DEVELOPING CHARISMA
DEVELOPING CHARISMA
ABSTRACT SPIRITUAL ENERGY
CONCRETE SPIRITUAL ENERGY
ABSTRACT MENTAL ENERGY
CONCRETE MENTAL ENERGY
UPPER EMOTIONAL ENERGY
SEXUAL ENERGY
LOWER EMOTIONAL ENERGY
ETHERIC ENERGY
INTENSE LIVING
THE SHOCK ABSORBER METHOD
THE SPONGE METHOD
PART FOUR-TAKING RISKS
TAKING RISKS
SPIRITUAL CRISIS
MENTAL CRISIS
EMOTIONAL CRISIS
PHYSICAL MASTERY
PART FIVE-DREAMS
DREAMS
DREAM WORK
DREAM VEHICLES AND WEAPONS
FUELING OUR DREAMS
PART SIX-SELF EMPOWERMENT
THE WILL TO LIVE
OUR PUBLIC IMAGE
CREATIVE POWER
SELF ESTEEM
DO IT!
SOCIAL PRESSURE
WINNING
FAMILY AND LOVE
FREEDOM
DEATH
LIKE A ROCK
THE GIFT OF LIFE
MIRACLES
YOUTH AND INNOCENCE
ROMANTIC LOVE
THE BALANCE OF LIFE
LIVING A BALANCED LIFE
ACTUALITY VS REALITY
OUR INNER CHILD
CARVING OUR DESTINY
MORAL ABSOLUTES
GIVING OUR POWER AWAY
LIFE IS SHORT AND SACRED
PERSONAL HAPPINESS
SUCCESS COUNTS FOR EVERYTHING
EMOTIONS CAN'T REASON
TURN EMOTIONS INTO ACTIONS
FREE WILL AND PHYSICAL ACTIONS
CHANGE ATTITUDE BY CHANGING BEHAVIOR
CONFRONTING FEAR
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
YOU CAN'T CHANGE WHAT YOU DON'T RECOGNIZE
LEARN YOUR FALSE RESPONSES
WHAT YOU SAY VS WHAT YOU DO
MAKE YOUR PHYSICAL ACTIONS COUNT
CHOOSE FREEDOM FROM SELF DEFEAT
BEING AFFECTED BY NEGATIVITY
NEGATIVITY ATTRACTS NEGATIVITY
WHAT YOU RESIST YOU BECOME
DON'T RELATE YOUR SOAP OPERA TO OTHERS
DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT AND GO FOR IT
WHERE YOUR ATTENTION GOES YOUR ENERGY FLOWS
IDEAS BECOME EMOTIONS; EMOTIONS BECOME ACTIONS
THE WORLD DOESN'T CHANGE, YOU DO
PART SEVEN-MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH
OAK ENERGY BALL MEDITATION
ASSERTIVENESS TRAINING
ANGER MANAGEMENT
PART EIGHT-ADDENDUM
SELECT BIBLIOGRAPHY
Introduction to the Order of Anarchistic Knights
OAK is a modern day mystery school that has teachings adapted and appropriate for modern humanity. It is a magickal Order devoted to the empowerment of the human race and to the advancement of magick in it’s most simple and primal form, pure energy and pure power.
OAK is based on “Chaos” theory and results. This knowledge and power is freely given to all and is believed to be the fastest and safest way of magickal development possible at this time. As a person works through all three degrees of self empowerment they will learn to understand the benefits of physical initiation and it is hoped that all “Anarchistic Knights” will choose to link energies when possible through physical initiations.
There are striking similarities between this tradition and the commonly observed “Wiccan” tradition. Any student of the Wiccan or Pagan path will find much of interest here.
Magister Templi has been reorganized into a 260 page book that is available as an ebook download or a quality paperback. The entire book will continue to be published online as a blog with weekly installments. Essays will be presented in their entirety unless they are over six pages in length. There will be more information than ever before and it will be presented in a more organized manner for ease of understanding.
This represents the OAK 1st Degree study material and will provide conceptual initiation into advanced metaphysical topics. It will also provide a solid framework on which to build your own paradigm or belief system. Compare to a software upgrade on your computer that is more suitable for today’s world. It integrates hard science, religion, psychology, metaphysics and objectivism into a working system that gets results.
The work of the 1st Degree is purification, development of a personal belief system and integration of the ego with the Super Ego, Christ Consciousness, Collective, Holy Guardian Angel or Deity. Different paths use different words for the same thing.
Magister Templi is meant to complement the OAK 1st Degree Initiation. The 1st Degree initiation is a physical initiation that creates a magickal link and energy exchange between members. Physical initiation and membership in a community is an important part of self empowerment. It is also a life choice.
Foundations has been reorganized into a 260 page book that is available as an ebook download or a quality paperback. The entire book will continue to be published online as a blog with weekly installments. Essays will be presented in their entirety unless they are over six pages in length. There will be more information than ever before and it will be presented in a more organized manner for ease of understanding.
This represents the OAK 2nd Degree study material and will provide conceptual initiation into advanced self-empowerment topics. It will also provide a solid framework on which to build competency and success in your daily life. Compare Foundations to a brand new computer system that is more suitable for today’s world. It integrates physical reality, hard work and personal effort into a working system that gets results. This is the ultimate self-help book.
The work of the 2nd Degree is physical empowerment, assertiveness and integration of the ego with the Shadow, Power Animal, Id, or instinctual self. Different paths use different words for the same thing.
Foundations is meant to complement the OAK 2nd Degree Initiation. The 2nd Degree initiation is a physical initiation that creates a magickal link and energy exchange between members. Physical initiation and membership in a community is an important part of self empowerment. It is also a life choice.
Alligator Alley:Survivalism is being organized into a book that will be available as an ebook download or a quality paperback. The entire book will be published online as a blog with weekly installments. Essays will be presented in their entirety unless they are over six pages in length. There will be more information than ever before and it will be presented in a more organized manner for ease of understanding. This is currently under development.
This represents the OAK 3rd Degree study material and will provide conceptual initiation into advanced Rosicrucian and Freemasonry topics. It will also provide a solid framework on which to build community and brotherhood in daily life. Compare Alligator Alley:Survivalism to an internet connection that connects you not only with the rest of the world but with those that share your values and interests. It integrates the 32 Degree of Scottish Freemasonry with the latest in human potentials and community resources. The goal of this work is to teach how important collective action and human brotherhood really is. Many people can get more done than what one person can. The human collective is an important source of empowerment.
The work of the 3rd Degree is to find others of like mind that share your personal values and beliefs. Family, community and support are important and life is not worth living without them. Different paths use different words for the same thing.
Alligator Alley:Survivalism is meant to complement the OAK 3rd Degree Initiation. The 3rd Degree initiation is a physical initiation that creates a magickal link and energy exchange between members. Physical initiation and membership in a community is an important part of self empowerment. It is also a life choice.
Magick, Mystery and Madness is being reorganized into a book that will be available as an ebook download or a quality paperback. The entire book will continue to be published online as a blog with weekly installments. Essays will be presented in their entirety unless they are over six pages in length. There will be more information than ever before and it will be presented in a more organized manner for ease of understanding. This information is currently under development.
This represents the OAK 4th Degree study material and will provide information for those wishing formal membership into the Order of Anarchistic Knights. Each living person is entitled to the mental, emotional, spiritual and physical benefits provided through the teachings of the 1st, 2nd, and 3rd Degrees. These are considered the outer circle of the Order. The 4th Degree is for those wishing to build the OAK community around the world by offering study groups and local initiations. Compare Magick, Mystery and Madness to beginning your own local OAK chapter as a representative of a way of living that brings results and success in life. This is the establishment of a formal brotherhood and family on a local level.
The work of the 4th Degree is the establishment of local OAK centers around the world and the establishment of OAK as community with its rewards and challenges. It requires personal commitment to the Order and taking a leadership position. Different paths use different words for the same thing.
Magick, Mystery and Madness is meant to complement the OAK 4th Degree Initiation. The 4th Degree initiation is a physical initiation that creates a magickal link and energy exchange between members. Physical initiation and membership in a community is an important part of self empowerment. It is also a life choice.
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Saturday, March 24, 2007
Chapter 24 Anger Management Part 3
Do you wake up in the morning filled with eagerness and excitement about the coming day and what you will be doing? This is the highest level of living. Everyone could be living at this level if they were healthy enough. You spend most of your day in self directed activity.
Perhaps you have a strong interest in the things around you. You are curious and actively seek out information and life experience. You are one of the lucky people that is a walking question mark always wanting to know something new. This is not as intense and eagerness and excitement but it is not bad.
Maybe all you can show is a mild interest. You will listen or go along with others but won't bother to seek out new things on your own. In fact, you hang out with other people because they bring excitement into your life. You are not exactly passive but you are letting others do most of the work. This is the level most people fall into.
Maybe you are just content. Your life is not going so well but it's not going that bad either. You can tolerate things and don't want to rock the boat and make things worse. Can we dare call this settling for second best? You are not really in love any more but don't want to split up because of the kids? The passion might be gone but you still like each other.
We have all reached that I don't care any more stage where we are totally indifferent. We don't care what happens anymore. We used to but now we don't. This happens all the time to small areas of life but if that is how we feel most of the time it is a sign that something is not right and we should be working on getting better. This is a good time to see that counselor before things get worse.
Guess what? You didn't go to the shrink and now you are bored all the time. You are so bored that you can't stand it and might even create some crisis just to make life interesting. The human mind can not tolerate boredom for long periods of time. Crisis is at least exciting even if it is unpleasant and we do learn from our mistakes.
Can you express your frustration and resentment to anyone? Think about this very carefully because anything below this level is going to sink. This is the last chance to rescue your self and your life. By now you are doing self destructive things and making things worse instead of better. Guess what? You don't even care. Bitching and complaining seldom ever work to make things better but they are much more healthy than the alternative. As long as you can let it out there is hope.
If you can't you are left with anger. Anger is destructive in most cases and is telling you that there is something very wrong in your life and you are not dealing with it or able to deal with it. In most cases getting angry will make things worse instead of better. The thing is that if you are feeling anger you need to let those feeling of anger out and release the energe before it becomes toxic. It might not make you popular but it can save your sanity and maybe even your life. It's better than the alternative.
Unexpress resentment is below anger and is when you just simmer like a pot on the stove. Nothing good will come out of it. Being passive agressive never solved anything. Most if the time it is better to confront things head on than to keep pretending they don't exist. Nothing stays the same and things will either get better or they will get worse. The longer you simmer the worse things will get. The problem is you are caught in a situation and you can't find a way out. The only way out is to let things get so bad they will fall apart. When they do someone might get hurt. It doesn't need to be this way.
Why are you letting things get so bad? What is it that you are really afraid of? What can be worse than this? Fear is at the root of all anger and those things we fear will happen. You can't make someone do something or be somebody that is untrue to themselves. You can't pretend to be someone else and live a fulfilling life. This is when it becomes easier to lie than to tell the truth. Not only that but you will distort things and twist even good things into harmful things. That is what fear does. It causes irrational behaviors.
We all know right from wrong. We know if we are being true to ourselves or not. When we compromise ourselves a part of us dies. It is really that simple. When love dies or a part of who we are dies we grieve for the loss of something very important. Grief and loss go together and no matter who we are in life we will lose important people. People we love will die and we will need to carry on without them. Life goes on and this is the most bitter pill of all. Especially when it takes over our entire life and we can't get over it. When that happens there is only one thing left and that is to die too.
We refuse to eat or take care of ourselves. We quit work and try to commit suicide. We might even have a nervous breakdown and be institutionalized for awhile. We have used up any and all of our coping skills and there is nothing left. This is when we hit bottom and the only choice left is to die or decide to live. That is a choice only we can answer because it is not possible to help someone that does not want help.
Symbolical death and rebirth give us a new lease on life unless we get caught in the same traps that entangeld us before. Our anger can be a useful tool to keep us on the right track. It can give us will power and determination. "I will not die. I will not quit. I will not let this thing beat me down." These are some of the ways we can turn our anger to good use.
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Sunday, March 18, 2007
Chapter 24 Anger Management Part 2
Anger is:
Guilt is anger turned inward toward the self.
Fear is the root of anger. Fear is responsible for hatred, anger, possessiveness, anxiety, greed, inhibition, stress, frustration, hang-ups, phobias and insecurities.
Anger is a universal, basic, normal, unavoidable reaction to displeasure.
It usually involves some misunderstanding or unmet expectation.
Anger is an internally generated physical energy force which we can use of fail to use as we choose. We can harness it through the martial arts, will power and determination.
Principles:
Anger is a physical energy force that needs to be dissipated or released.
It is related to the emotions of fear, hurt and pain.
We experience anger when we feel an expectation is not being met.
Our anger responses are learned and programmed into us.
We can learn better ways to express anger.
Dealing with the anger of others:
We can help others release their anger by not arguing back.
Do not defend, justify, contradict, interupt or rationalize until the energy is used up.
Send empathetic, understanding messages to the other before, during and after the outburst.
Try to become "calmer" and don't get "hooked" into the anger and get angry yourself.
Realize they were angry before you came on the scene. Don't take it personally.
Dealing with your own anger:
Realize you have an unmet expectation. Is our expectation realistic?
Acknowledge your anger, express it fully and then release the anger in a safe manner.
Give yourself a break.
Anger is normal and healthy. It is telling you that something is wrong.
You can't change anger if you don't recognize it.
If you are angry you attract anger from others.
What you resist you become.
Releasing anger:
Anger can be released through physical exertions, verbalizing or mentally reprogramming yourself.
Experience your anger completely.
What you are repelled by in others you will find in yourself.
Encourage and respect anger expressions as signs that something is wrong.
Anger is linked to self-esteem and self-hate. It is basic to mental health.
We can reduce anger when we stop trying to change other people.
Whoever can make me mad can control me.
Avoid using the word "should".
Those unable to be angry, or afraid to be angry, are often unable to love.
They are not confident of their own love or the love of the other person.
Those who have no anger are not human.
Coping with anger gets easier with practice and improves relationships.
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Monday, March 12, 2007
Chapter 24 Anger Management Part 1
No one can control their emotions. We can not control how we feel and we should not associate guilt with anger. We can control our physical actions. Only volitional or willful actions can be wrong or associated with guilt not anger itself. We need to experience all of our emotions for real intimacy with others. We can get angry with a friend or loved one without fearing they will leave us. Real love requires being real with our partner. Suppressing one emotion weakens our ability to share all the others.
An interesting thing about anger is that as anger goes up our reasoning ability seems to go down. Anger is related to pain. Pain in the future is anxiety. Pain in the present is hurt, loss or sadness. Pain in the past is anger. Anger is about something that has already happened.
The vikings felt anger was a gift of the gods. When it came upon a warrior in the midst of a battle as a berserker rage the warrior was invincible. In modern society a berserker rage is not seen as a good thing. In life of death situations it still might be.
I remember reading about a study done on Vietnam veterans with spinal injuries and anger. According to the study veterans with spinal injuries that left them paralyzed below the waist did not experience anger in the same manner as they used to before the spine injury. Prior to the spinal injury anger welled up from deep inside and exploded like a volcano. After the spinal injury anger was experienced more like a tempest in a teapot. It did not have the explosive force anymore.
This is important evidence that anger is substantial. It is an energy that travels through the nervous system and does build to explosive force within us at times. It needs a pathway and it needs to be released. It is a physical energy with a physical basis.
Anger causes somatic responses. Our body responds to anger in different ways. What kind of body language expresses anger?
Do you clench your jaw?
Get a stomache ache?
Raise your voice?
Refuse to speak?
Want to hurt someone?
Want to get away?
Become verbally or physically abusive?
Sweat or turn red?
Get sarcastic?
Does your tone of voice change?
Do you cry?
Do you shake?
How does anger make you feel?
Do you procrastinate in doing things?
Are you always late for things?
Do you have a sadistic or ironic humor?
Are you sarcastic, cynical or flip in conversation?
Do you sigh frequently?
Are you over polite or "Nice"?
Do you smile when hurting?
Do you have bad dreams?
Do you have trouble sleeping?
Are you bored with things that are usually fun?
Are you more tired than usual?
Do you get really picky and irritable with others?
Do you get tired when you shouldn't?
Does your anger make you feel guilty?
Do you feel anxious?
Do you feel ashamed?
Do you feel withdrawn from others?
Do you know when you are angry?
What is your anger like?
Does it last to long?
Does it flare up frequently?
Does it express itself even when you are trying to suppress it?
Does it go away quickly?
What does your anger do?
Does it interfere with your jobs or relationships?
Does it contribute to physical problems?
Does it lead to accidents?
Does it get you into legal problems?
Knowing your own anger and how you repond to it is very important. You need to know when you are angry so you can safely do something about it. Take a few minutes going through this list and determine if any of them apply to you. Try to decide if you have a problem with anger or not.
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Tuesday, March 06, 2007
Chapter 23 Assertiveness Training Part 3
There is an instinct or primal will to live deep within each one of us. It is the collective will of the human species to survive into the future, to grow and to expand. There is something within us that wants the human race to be alive billions of years into the future when our sun goes nova or dies out.
There is something within us that wants the human race to explore the stars, build cities beneath the oceans and on top of the highest mountains. This something wants us to go ever onward in the face of overwhelming opposition.
This is the force that we need to tap into when we wish to assert ourselves in life. We need to believe in both the human race and in ourselves and in our right to live the type of life we each desire.
Assertiveness is the taking back of personal power. We choose to create the type of world we want to live in and we believe in our ability to make a difference.
Manipulation traps are unfair ways we try to take advantage of personal relationships and force people into giving us what we desire. Understanding manipulation traps and how to avoid them is vital in reclaiming our personal power and being assertive.
"How can you treat me like that?"
"I've been waiting all week for you to call."
"It's your fault that I'm upset and can't get to sleep."
Making someone feel guilty is a common manipulation technique. It weakens and destroys a person's self-esteem. No matter how upset you are with someone or their behavior you don't need to make them feel guilt. There is no reason someone should make you feel guilty. Guilt destroys our sense of who we are.
Instead of making a person feel guilty focus on the behaviors instead.
"I don't like it when you treat me like that."
"I have been hoping to hear from you all week."
"Our argument got me upset and I can't sleep."
These responses communicate the same feelings or information without making the other person feel guilty. When a person feels guilty they feel attacked and hurt. They are also put on the defensive and may fight back in self-defense.
Yelling and intimidation to your face.
Unfortunately making a scene in public does work for many people. I've seen a Lt. Col. plead with an outraged Sgt. asking her to calm down and stop yelling. Being considerate and respectful is expected public behavior. People that yell and throw temper tantrums to get their own way are deliberately being rude and disrespectful to cause discomfort. It makes people back down simply because they are uncomfortable. This is unfair. You can not let someone get their way by intimidation. Once you give in they will constantly take advantage of you in the future.
You don't want to play bingo. Your spouse accuses you of never wanting to do what he or she wants to do.
You go play bingo. This is a variant of the guilt trip manipulation. Compromise is an important part of any relationship.
"If we go to bingo this week can we go bowling next week?"
If I do this for him, he'll have to do something for me.
"Here is a free sample; can I have a minute of your time?"
In my mind this is one of the worst manipulation traps. Someone does something for us that we are not asking for or perhaps even expecting and they demand some type of payment or response for what they have done.
"Well I do all the cooking and cleaning around here. The least you can do is take out the garbage."
The problem is that solutions are not negotiated. Everything is one way, the way the manipulator desires.
What is wrong with:
"I'm going to do the cooking. What are you going to do to help?"
"Can we take turns cooking and cleaning?"
Give the other person a chance to take part in the decision making process. Let their opinions count and their feelings be heard.
"If you do that I'll never talk to you again."
"If you are going to do that you might as well never come back."
These are obvious strong arm tactics to get what you want at any cost. You have raised the stakes so high that there is no negotiation or discussion at all. This is totally one way and grossly unfair. Such extremist behavior can not allow relationships to grow.
"You're the only one that can help me."
"How do you expect me to wash the dishes and still get my homework done?"
Pretending to be helpless when you are not is all too easy. At first people are willing to help but later this behavior builds deep resentments and may even cause people to avoid you. Learning to do things and becoming competent is one of the greatest joys in life even if it is hard at times.
"Will you show me how to do this?" is a lot better.
"That looks like you."
"You must be related." (The idea is that the teasing hits too close to home and is hurtful not playful.)
"Why did you stop at the bar last night?" (You already know the answer but just want to watch him or her
squirm and try to get out of it.)
"Are you still driving that old wreck?"
"Have you stopped beating your wife yet?"
This manipulation can be very frustrating because either way you answer the question puts you in a bad light. This is the kind of manipulation that makes people look like fools and no one likes that.
Solutions
Manipulation traps are not fair. There are healthy ways of getting your needs met within relationships. They are win-win solutions that allow personal growth and respect for each other at all times. Instead of needing to be in control ensure both of you have choices and that the choices are mutual. One person can not be making all of the choices in a healthy relationship.
All to often the helpless manipulation comes up. Teach each other how to cook a meal, clean the bathroom, start the lawn mower, check the oil. Allow each other to become successful in more areas and take joy in their successes.
Getting even is a form of revenge. It doesn't belong in relationships. Replace getting even with justice and fairness. When things are unfair talk about them and find solutions that work for both of you.
Repeat Technique
Ignore trap and repeat what you want in a calm voice until they give up.This may take 4 or 5 repetitions.
Don't get drawn into the trap. Stay focused and repeat the same words. They understand, you don't need to say it several ways.
I Statement
Without putting yourself down or apologizing state what it is that you want.
"I want to stay at my current job. I don't want to move closer to your parents."
Clouding
Respond calmly, acknowledge there may be some truth yet you still will continue to do what you believe is best. Don't apologize-continue to do what you want.
"I understand that I could find a better paying job. I like the one I have. Money is not everything that is important to me."
Negative Declarations
Ask questions about the problem until the complaints are exhausted. Admit a mistake or fault without apologizing for it.
"I said I would take out the garbage and I forgot. I will do it as soon as I am done with the paper. Is there anything else you are angry about?"
Compromise without loss of self-respect
Relationships are two way things. Both people have needs to be met and they are not always the same needs. It is important to finds ways to be supportive of each others needs and allow compromises when needed. At times it is important to give in as well. Which is more important that tie or the relationship?
Side tracking
Changing the subject to something more interesting. This is a lot easier to do than most people would think.
"Is that your dog?" or "I need to go to the bathroom." can derail most unpleasant discussions.
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